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		<title>Are You out of Your Mind?</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 11 Mar 2012 03:43:49 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Kathleen</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[While nobody has yet to say this to me, this is the look on some faces when I tell them that we’re seriously considering homeschooling our boys. And definitely doing so for Charlie’s kindergarten year. And I want to scream, “YES! I must be going crazy!” because so often I feel that way, too, even [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>While nobody has yet to say this to me, this is the look on some faces when I tell them that we’re seriously considering homeschooling our boys. And definitely doing so for Charlie’s kindergarten year. And I want to scream, “YES! I must be going crazy!” because so often I feel that way, too, even though I can just as easily feel that people are nuts to put their kids into the current system. I can talk myself into and out of homeschooling about as quickly as I can eat a truffle.</p>
<p>Obviously, no one can really predict what will happen year to year, but I have the strong sense that once we’ve jumped the monumental first hurdle of not registering for public school and begun our first projects we won’t be turning back. This may seem like a pretty brazen or extremely naive thing to say, but I have a few reasons that make it somewhat educated. I have yet to meet a single homeschooled child or homeschooling parent who has regretted their choice.  I’m sure they’re out there, but I don’t think they’re anywhere close to the majority. Every parent I’ve talked to immediately lights up with how amazing it has been for their entire family, not just the kids. It&#8217;s a little bit like talking to a newly engaged twenty-year-old: you’re happy for them but their giddiness and tremendous energy also makes you feel like you drank decaf. You also can’t help but wonder if they’re overcompensating for the struggles by being overly enthusiastic.</p>
<p>There’s also my heart. I think I know to my core (when I am still and not scared and trusting that we’ll all be ok) that it is best for our oldest and probably will be best for our youngest, too. This could change, but as long as I feel that way, I can’t ignore it. I’ve tried really hard and it keeps coming back. We want our boys to be able to pursue their passions with abandon. If they want to dig in the dirt for an hour, they can. If they want to paint all day, they can. If they want to do written-based work in the car on a trip to the mountains, followed by a hike, so be it. We want them to thoroughly enjoy learning. We want our life to be an education and we want it to be a lot of fun. And there are many more reasons backed up by reading we&#8217;ve done&#8211;I&#8217;ll share those another time.</p>
<p>But it is so crazy! I KNOW! I get scared. Every time someone talks about our neighborhood school positively, I doubt our choice. I freak out a little bit every time I meet a <em>weird</em> homeschooler. We all know them&#8211;though I wonder if we’d all be weird if we weren’t trying to shape ourselves to fit in at school because we would be more unique, more ourselves. I wonder if we’ll find a community of homeschoolers that fits us. I wonder if I’ll be lonely and missing my friends with children in public schools. I wonder if we’ll all feel left out from school&#8217;s big events.</p>
<p>Despite all those doubts and some yet listed, kindergarten still feels like a no-brainer. Our neighborhood school requires full-day K and you have to pay a hefty monthly tuition to compensate for the lack of full-day funding. And since the school has chosen to focus on providing language immersion and academics, there is not a single dedicated art teacher for any form of art. It is totally up to the classroom teacher to provide music, visual arts, theatre, dance or anything else. I’m sure the teachers do their best to fit these in when possible, but these are Charlie’s passions and we don&#8217;t think a full day of dealing with 27+ other classmates and their behaviors while listening to and completing academic lessons he already knows is worth the second language exposure. Especially at the cost of missing the chance to pursue his passions and have some afternoon rest before a group activity. We could supplement art in the afternoons, but I am really wary of over-scheduling the boys and know he also wants to play soccer, pursue music and have downtime. Charlie still sleeps 12 hours a night and definitely needs it. Packing in activities at the cost of play time, family time and sleep has no appeal to me right now.</p>
<p>So, we’re going to take it year by year. Kindergarten will be a great low pressure chance to see how we like home-based education. We will get to know a few local homeschooling groups (Seattle is overflowing with opportunity in this regard), Charlie will likely continue with the Seattle Children’s Theatre next year and his group activities beyond that will come from sports, church, playdates, and anything else that float his boat. He’s already got the K-level academic basics down, so continuing to build his literacy skills, math knowledge, and general world knowledge will be a continuation of how we already function.</p>
<p>We have not run into this decision blindly. Who the heck would do that? Why would a stay at home mom give up the potential for six hours of gardening, cooking, exercising, meeting friends and running errands <em>by herself, uninterrupted?!</em>? This choice does not come easy. In fact, I spent a good year incredibly torn because I felt homeschooling would be the best education for our boys but not if my heart wasn’t in it. I didn’t feel up to it and I was concerned I was going to be angry and eventually bitter. So, late last summer we committed ourselves to the idea of public school, allowing cognitive dissonance to do its work and make us feel fine about our choice. “It’s a bilingual school! It’s going to be a brand new building! Everyone we meet there is happy! Our boys will have more fun!” There’s a lot you can tell yourself to make it feel alright and I eventually forgot about homeschooling and embraced the idea of being an involved public school volunteer.</p>
<p>With the passing of a few months, life got much easier for us. Harry had a steady income. Mr. Toddler was safer, more independent, and didn&#8217;t require constant attention. The boys started to play together long enough that I could bake or cook while they were awake without fear of setting the house on fire. I had an outlet for regular exercise while they were cared for and life was much, much better. I was really enjoying my role.</p>
<p>So, into that environment walked my brother, the sailor, spending time unwinding with us after a few months at sea. He is one of several incredibly bright people I know who were failed by the public school system. Bored to death, needing creative outlets, and happier learning from a book than from teachers (I&#8217;d bet he had more book smarts than most of his teachers), he skipped high school classes to sit in the public library and read. He got kicked out of high school and later passed the GED with a nearly perfect score (without studying, of course). He’s a voracious reader to this day. Within a few nights of staying with us, he told us about an article he read at sea about a few homeschooler’s experiences while we were eating dinner. The minute he started talking I got a little anxious, sipped on my red wine a little faster. I had grown accustomed to the idea of having time to myself once Miles started preschool, of participating in Charlie’s classroom as a happy volunteer, of having instant community from his classroom peers and more friends for him. But, he got me thinking again. Harry didn’t need any convincing. He had always liked the homeschooling idea but also supported my decision to not do it if I wasn’t passionate about it since I would be doing the bulk of the work.</p>
<p>I was scared, I wanted to fight it, but I eventually started believing that I might really enjoy it. Maybe I was actually in a spot to thrive in the role. Our family has a pretty amazing setup for it right now. Harry works from home and has some flexibility in schedule. He often has jobs that he can do from anywhere there’s an internet connection. So, I began dreaming. What about January in Florida, escaping Seattle’s nasty rain, enjoying sunshine and beach, and learning from Harry’s mom’s house? What about June in Colorado, enjoying a longer summer than Seattle provides and spending time with all our family there? And dare I really dream, what about a year or two in Europe? Introducing our kids to all my Dutch friends from my exchange student year, visiting other friends scattered around the continent? These make my heart jump with delight. And yet I fear holding onto them too tightly because they might not happen.</p>
<p>Those dreams may not ever be the reality of our homeschooling. Harry’s job could change and he could be gone from our home 10 hours a day in a full-time job with very little flexibility. That may change my mind altogether about this endeavor. More likely, though, is that our reality may be some typical “schoolwork” / paperwork and lots of projects, reading, cooking, gardening, beach trips, library visits,volunteering, hikes, walks through the zoo, classes (there is an astounding number of really cool extracurricular activities for homeschooling kids in the city) and maybe a homeschool co-op for some academics.</p>
<p>I have also had the pleasure of working closely and being friends with someone who homeschooled her two boys, now in college, and saw the incredible projects they achieved, the quality of their writing, the passion they maintained for interests that likely would’ve been squashed by peers in public schools. She owns a business, her husband worked contracts and the two of them pieced it together to handle their boys’ learning. I have other friends who grew up spending hours every day just playing with their siblings because they completed their “work” in a few hours. Some completed lots of workbooks without much adult interaction, others completed amazing projects that were very dynamic. You don’t have to guess what we’ll be doing.</p>
<p>But doubt creeps in. I ask myself if I’m crazy. I hear that a dear friend’s son, who is also one of Charlie&#8217;s best buddies, will be moving into our school zone and I immediately want to enroll Charlie, too. But I think about it and know that the move feels better for me than for Charlie. I am more worried about my loneliness than the boys being socially isolated. I think to my childhood and the best times I had with friends. All were after school, either in each others’ homes or in extracurricular activities. These things will be easy to work in, especially when my boys are not worn out from a day of school and don&#8217;t have homework. I think about how many close friends I had that I really delighted in and know we only need a handful of great companions for the boys to be in quality relationships.</p>
<p>So, consider this my announcement of yet another unusual step by our family. I am comforted deeply that all our past choices that felt stupid, nutty or risky have all been worth it. I think this will be the case again but I can’t always walk boldly in that space. I try to keep my eye on the beauty that will be found in simplicity, the fun that will be had, the passions that will be allowed to fully blossom, the relationships that will be deep and rich. If you catch me forgetting these things, I would love a nudge in that direction. And if you know of fantastic resources, I am always happy to add them to our ever-growing pile. Thank you for supporting us in our many nontraditional ways, dear friends and family!</p>
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		<title>The Food Journal: Part I</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 13 Apr 2010 04:29:07 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Kathleen</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I have decided I want to start documenting a bit of our journey with food.  I&#8217;ve had a lot of discussions with various people and it seems prudent to begin sharing why and how we&#8217;ve made changes so far. Harry &#38; my first big shift with food came as a result of a year of [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I have decided I want to start documenting a bit of our journey with food.  I&#8217;ve had a lot of discussions with various people and it seems prudent to begin sharing why and how we&#8217;ve made changes so far.</p>
<p>Harry &amp; my first big shift with food came as a result of a year of very limited income.  We did not want to sacrifice quality or health and live off Top Ramen and mac &amp; cheese, so to help stretch our food budget we either eliminated or significantly reduced consumption of meat, juice, alcohol, and other unhealthy foods.  We also stopped eating out or buying coffee and pastries (one of our favorite weekend traditions), apart from special or rare occasions.</p>
<p>Through that year we got quite used to eating this way and maintained many of the habits once Harry had a full-time job.  I don&#8217;t enjoy handling nor cooking most meat so the only forms I began incorporating semi-regularly were ground buffalo and wild salmon.  Additionally, I learned much more about gardening, had a huge amount of bed space to do so, and quickly fell in love with growing food.  Last summer and fall I barely ever bought vegetables at the market because our garden produced enough for our family, and often enough to share or store.  This perpetuated our mostly vegetarian diet because it was the most convenient, healthy and economical way for us to eat.  I also believe this helped me become a much better, more flexible cook.  I had to learn new ways to use the same vegetable without us going crazy at the sight of it or how to incorporate a bunch of random veggies into a dish before they went bad.  I now have several meals that I can cook without following a recipe that work as great vehicles for leftover produce (homemade pizza, pasta dishes, salads, enchiladas, frittatas, etc&#8230;)</p>
<p>The next steps we took came because of articles, books, and discussions about the food industry.  Not fast food (we&#8217;d watched SupersizeMe years prior and have successfully avoided McDs, as well as most of it&#8217;s equals, since), but the major players behind most &#8220;food&#8221; products on the USA grocery stores shelves. <em> Food, Inc.</em> was probably the most powerful catalyst for change, but Pollan&#8217;s articles/books and other key players in the slow food movement have all contributed to our baby steps.  Each bit of knowledge has led to either a softening towards change or immediate change.  It&#8217;s definitely a bit like peeling an onion-layer after layer reveals something new, usually equally pungent.  Sometimes we&#8217;re ready to digest what we learn, other times we&#8217;re not.</p>
<p>We have found the process extremely rewarding.  I am really enjoying providing healthier, more sustainable food options for our family that are balanced out by delicious treats.  (In our home, very little sugar in the three big meals a day leaves plenty of room for some sweet treats as snacks!) I am definitely doing a lot more dishes, pots &amp; pans nearly every meal, but the truth is that only adds about 5 minutes of clean-up per meal.  I have grown very accustomed to the bulk food sections of stores and now know which stores I can no longer shop at for just about anything.  Recently, several grocery store clerks looked at me like I was crazy after asking if they had spelt flour.  One questioned whether it truly existed and followed up that question with &#8220;Is it for Passover?&#8221;  So funny.  Also, none of us are missing our old breakfast staples like I anticipated.  We are enjoying our oatmeal, granola, pancakes or eggs for breakfast.  Charlie has stopped asking for boxed mac &amp; cheese unless he sees it in the grocery store.  He got it as a treat with a babysitter one night and we&#8217;ve decided it&#8217;ll be saved for just that occasion for two reasons, to please the child&#8217;s palate and help us get out the door without tears.   I have seen substantial improvement in his willingness to try new foods and eat what&#8217;s put before him.  This has probably been a big enough reward in itself to keep us motivated.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s an exciting time for us with the baby on the way but I feel like these changes are sustainable.  Additionally, we will probably have groceries delivered to home for awhile, which along with buying a bit more time and keeping healthy foods coming our way, will probably lower our grocery bill because there won&#8217;t be any impulse purchases.  I&#8217;ve also stocked our freezer with lots of beans, soups and breads that we can pull out as needed.  (To help prevent us from going to the grocery store and buying a frozen pizza, for example&#8230;but again, there&#8217;s room for grace.  There will undoubtedly be those days.)  There are no vegetables growing in pots on our front porch, like I&#8217;d hoped to have, and at this point I wonder if I&#8217;d have any chance of keeping them alive.  (I think we&#8217;ll be ready for summer veggies but missed the cool weather spring veggie window.)  I am sad I won&#8217;t be able to rely on my own produce like I could last year, but hey, at least we&#8217;re in Seattle surrounded by farmer&#8217;s markets in every neighborhood come May!  And the year-long Ballard market is so fantastic.  It helps tremendously to be in a community filled with believers in the importance of changing our food system, and even moreso to have close friends walking the same path, sharing recipes and meals with us.  (Have you watched Jamie Oliver&#8217;s Food Revolution?  Such a great start&#8230;)</p>
<p>Harry and I are not black and white about this, and Harry&#8217;s particularly good at keeping me gray given my tendency to be all-or-nothing about choices.  We&#8217;re going to eat whatever  meals people share with us and be thankful for that time of fellowship  and food.  We&#8217;re going to enjoy meals at restaurants.  And while we&#8217;d  like to support restaurants that avoid factory farmed meat, it won&#8217;t  always happen or be possible.  (We are discovering that vegetarian  options at restaurants often taste better, though!)  We&#8217;re striving to  do our best but there&#8217;s plenty of room for grace.  This is a journey.  We understand that others may not agree, are at  different spots in their own journey, or don&#8217;t know about the  situation.  It is all relatively new to us, too, and we&#8217;re very aware of  how much more we have to learn.  We love to dialogue about it and have  gleaned tremendous amounts of insight from those further along this  road, as well as from those who aren&#8217;t on it at all.</p>
<p>There is so much more to write about, but I&#8217;ll end with a little of what has been required to make this happen: careful time management and planning of social events during the week, a definite dedication to cooking, reading more recipes to expand my repertoire, and initially, more trips to grocery stores because I couldn&#8217;t find things I needed at certain ones.  It all requires a mindfulness that wasn&#8217;t necessary when I knew I had some packaged item in the freezer we could cook up.  In a crunch, stovetop oatmeal or plain whole wheat pasta just isn&#8217;t as appealing as potstickers and frozen pizza.</p>
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		<title>Eating Animals</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 23 Feb 2010 04:53:04 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Kathleen</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I mentioned Eating Animals in my last post.  This online talk and discussion allows you to get a taste of the book and the author&#8217;s thoughts behind it.  I found it very worthwhile and well done. http://www.hulu.com/watch/121344/foratv-culture-eating-animals-jonathan-safran-foer?c=News-and-Information#s-p1-sr-i1]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I mentioned Eating Animals in my last post.  This <a href="http://www.hulu.com/watch/121344/foratv-culture-eating-animals-jonathan-safran-foer?c=News-and-Information#s-p1-sr-i1">online talk and discussion</a> allows you to get a taste of the book and the author&#8217;s thoughts behind it.  I found it very worthwhile and well done.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.hulu.com/watch/121344/foratv-culture-eating-animals-jonathan-safran-foer?c=News-and-Information#s-p1-sr-i1">http://www.hulu.com/watch/121344/foratv-culture-eating-animals-jonathan-safran-foer?c=News-and-Information#s-p1-sr-i1</a></p>
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		<title>Giving Thanks</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Nov 2009 18:00:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Kathleen</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I am finding more and more that fostering an attitude of thankfulness requires a consistent, deliberate practice.  Without a conscious effort to remember all that is good, it is far too easy to get sucked into the abyss of sadness this world brings.  Even my own current simple challenges&#8211;wondering how and when our job/move situation [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I am finding more and more that fostering an attitude of thankfulness requires a consistent, deliberate practice.  Without a conscious effort to remember all that is good, it is far too easy to get sucked into the abyss of sadness this world brings.  Even my own current simple challenges&#8211;wondering how and when our job/move situation will pan out, feeling pregnancy related pain, and listening to Charlie&#8217;s wails and demands when he&#8217;s not at his best&#8211;can feel life-sucking. Sometimes I almost can&#8217;t see my way out unless I talk to someone wise enough to listen just as I need or who happens to be having a worse time.  This is not how I want to foster thankfulness.  I want my heart to <em>know</em>, not just see, the beauty and good in life, regardless of whether my struggles are relatively easier or harder than those of people I interact with.   We are surrounded by such intense pain and suffering that there will always be someone having a harder time somewhere.  Yet, their heart may be in a better spot, more willing to accept life for its ups and downs and trust that life isn&#8217;t about the ease with which we get through it.  We are created for so much more than just getting by.</p>
<p>Thanksgiving lends itself to much beauty, not the least of which is that it encourages so many people to stop and think about what they&#8217;re thankful for before they stuff themselves silly.  I celebrate this part of Thanksgiving and love that it is a part of Harry and my tradition to share these thoughts.  Additionally, I like that it&#8217;s a call to return to or strengthen a practice of meditating regularly on our blessings.  Without giving thanks, I am sure to grow bitter, forgetful, and weary.</p>
<p>There is also plenty about Thanksgiving with which I don&#8217;t care to identify or celebrate.  I just read <a href="http://www.dailykos.com/story/2009/11/25/807773/-How-I-Learned-to-Savor-Thanksgiving">this article</a> about the historical atrocities associated with this holiday and reminded of how deep the pain runs for many Native Americans when our nation recognizes only the happily-presented (elementary school version that many adults still believe) pilgrim part of the story.  Highlighting his years of being bonded by anger, the author&#8217;s last line is perfect:  &#8220;And we&#8217;ll give thanks that we live in a country where remembering the past need not shackle us to it.&#8221;  It seems a good balance to discuss the truth and then choose to celebrate the ways that love has triumphed over hate, thankfulness over ungratefulness.</p>
<p>I also find it difficult to swallow the costs associated with Thanksgiving&#8211;physically, financially, environmentally, and sadly, for many, spiritually and emotionally&#8211;that could be lessened by making a few changes.  (I feel this way about Christmas, too&#8230;particularly store bought obligatory gifts.)  I&#8217;m all in favor of a local, organic, sustainable Thanksgiving meal.  Not a feast, but a <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/1997/11/19/dining/the-minimalist-give-thanks-in-three-hours-from-scratch.html?scp=1&amp;sq=thanksgiving+bittman&amp;st=nyt">minimalist</a>, stress-free meal that allows people to engage in relational activities and enjoy the day.  This does not have to be any more expensive than a conventional meal.  In fact, by not having a turkey (which wouldn&#8217;t bother me one bit), the costs are decreased significantly.  If turkey is a must, getting a heritage turkey seems worth the extra cost.  I&#8217;ve heard the flavor is significantly better (maybe I&#8217;d actually want turkey annually if I tried one of them) and they&#8217;re not packed with hormones.  In fact, they can actually reproduce on their own.  (Isn&#8217;t it horrifying that conventional turkeys can&#8217;t reproduce!?)  You could cut costs elsewhere by having fewer sides, no alcohol, etc&#8230;  Or, don&#8217;t eat meat for a few weeks prior and after.  This would also help off-set the environmental impact of the holiday.  We have a very long way to go in celebrating this way, but I believe it is a gift to the world to do so.  It is an acknowledgment that our choices impact the whole world and by choosing simplicity, we are respecting our global neighborhood.</p>
<p>So, I&#8217;m done with my truth sharing and moving on towards focusing on love.  We have so much to be thankful for that it&#8217;s almost embarrassing.  Yesterday I had a twenty week ultrasound for our littlest Love.  The baby is healthy and growing well, already 11 inches and over 300 grams.  (It also seems to be following in Charlie&#8217;s shoes for head size.  Great&#8230;can&#8217;t wait for labor again.)  The appointment length was going to make Harry&#8217;s work day challenging and we both opted for him to stay at work.  So that we could still learn the baby&#8217;s gender at the same time, I arranged for a bakery near Harry&#8217;s office to prepare a half dozen chocolate coconut cupcakes for a boy and strawberry milkshake ones for a girl.  The ultrasound tech had me turn my head every time I could&#8217;ve been informed, praising me all the while for doing a good job not cheating.  She was pretty cute in how proud she seemed of me.  And she was happy to make the call even though she&#8217;d never been asked to do so before.   Harry met me at the bakery after the appointment and we eagerly opened up our box and tearfully celebrated our news with a pair of really delicious cupcakes and shots of espresso.  After a few minutes by ourselves, the delightful <a href="http://www.teeandcakes.com/hours.html">Tee and Cakes</a> owner, Kim, generously brought us a onesie for the baby.  The staff there couldn&#8217;t have treated us better.  I think they liked being in on the secret.  And they probably liked my tears, too.</p>
<p>A few of many other things that keep me singing praises, in no particular order:</p>
<p>Sweet baby Caroline, who has triumphed through a very rough first year of life that included heart failure, feeding tubes, and open heart surgery.  She is as cute as a button and melts your heart with her smile.  She is recovering beautifully and beginning to really hit her stride.  Her parents,  my dear friend Leslie and her husband Mike, have been amazing.  They have inspired me countless times with their optimism, endurance, strength, advocacy, and profound love.</p>
<p>Our friends Lonnie and Juliet finally got to pick up their son from Ethiopia and now have him in their arms on a daily basis.  I got the pleasure of meeting Daniel in October and almost couldn&#8217;t believe that he&#8217;s cuter in person than he is in his pictures, because his pictures turn me into jello.  The kid is as adorable as they come.  Brightest eyes I&#8217;ve ever seen.  Man, I want to hold him right now!  It is such exquisite beauty to see friends who have longed for a family holding their baby in their arms.</p>
<p>My core group girls.  I have absolutely loved getting to know these college women by having them into our home regularly for study and fellowship.  Had I known I would be pregnant or that we might be moving, I probably wouldn&#8217;t have signed up to lead a group.  It has deeply enriched these past few months for me.  They have taught me so much with their passion, exuberance, energy, vulnerability, and eagerness to grow.  I will dearly miss meeting with them if we move.  You girls better take a road trip!</p>
<p>Harry&#8217;s job.  While it has created a new source of difficulties, it allowed us to stay in our house, rebuild our savings a bit, and take a deep sigh of relief after our year of limited income.  It also gave us the freedom to feel like we could start trying for another child.  Now, it seems, it might be leading us to another source of thankfulness&#8230;a return to Seattle.</p>
<p>While leaving Colorado will be heart-breaking and extremely difficult on many levels, we are thankful that jobs exist in Seattle for Harry&#8217;s line of work.  If we had to move somewhere else, I can&#8217;t imagine how upset I&#8217;d be.  But a return to Seattle feels like a return home.  We have never stopped missing our friends and church.  We also have discovered that we&#8217;re not suburbia folks&#8230;we like city life, even the nitty-gritty.  It is only in the joy of returning to people we dearly miss and love that we can face the pain of leaving others behind.</p>
<p>With that, I hope you all find a moment to reflect on what is good, beautiful, and loving in your life.  If you have read this entire post, you are certainly a good friend to me!  Happy Thanksgiving!!!</p>
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		<title>Why You Should Choose Barack Over Hillary</title>
		<link>http://loveoirs.com/2008/02/05/why-you-should-choose-barack-over-hillary</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 05 Feb 2008 17:53:31 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Harry Love</dc:creator>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://lessig.org/blog/2008/02/20_minutes_or_so_on_why_i_am_4.html">Lawrence Lessig has posted a brilliant video</a> explaining some very crucial differences between Barack and Hillary. Please watch this before you go to the polls.</p>
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		<title>It&#8217;s Sunday, Colorado, and I&#8217;d Like a Beer from the Grocery Store</title>
		<link>http://loveoirs.com/2007/12/16/its-sunday-colorado-and-id-like-a-beer-from-the-grocery-store</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 17 Dec 2007 02:32:27 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Harry Love</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Kathleen and I were talking about making dinner tonight and she says, &#8220;Oooh, wouldn&#8217;t a beer be great tonight?&#8221; Oh, man, yes it would. Especially a bottle of 1554 from the local New Belgium Brewing Company. Boy, that would be tasty. &#8220;Why don&#8217;t I run down to the grocery store and pick us up a [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Kathleen and I were talking about making dinner tonight and she says, &#8220;Oooh, wouldn&#8217;t a beer be great tonight?&#8221;</p>
<p>Oh, man, yes it would. Especially a bottle of <a href="http://www.newbelgium.com/beers_bk.php">1554</a> from the local <a href="http://www.newbelgium.com/">New Belgium Brewing Company</a>. Boy, that would be tasty. &#8220;Why don&#8217;t I run down to the grocery store and pick us up a 6-pack?&#8221;</p>
<p>Oops, wait a minute. We live in Colorado, one of the last holdouts of the so-called &#8220;<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blue_law">blue laws</a>&#8221; which were created to prevent anyone from doing anything construed as enjoyment on God&#8217;s holy day. Laughing counts, so cut it out. And I just now realized the irony that the only states that have blue laws are red states.</p>
<p>This is almost enough reason for us to move back to Seattle. Don&#8217;t worry, parents, we&#8217;re staying. For now.</p>
<p>But, I swear, if the laws for selling beer, wine, and liquor on Sundays (and in grocery stores at all) are not repealed this coming election year, I&#8217;m slapping somebody. How else are we going to get <a href="http://www.traderjoes.com/">Trader Joe&#8217;s</a> to open a store here?</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve read that the objections to repealing the laws don&#8217;t come from irate fundamentalists but actually from outspoken liquor store owners who have an effective lobby in the local government. And it&#8217;s understandable, too. If the laws were repealed they might have to compete like real businesses do and that would be a shame. I mean, I wouldn&#8217;t want you guys to have to rely on ingenuity or anything. Heaven forbid you have to alter your business model. (Technically, I guess it does.)</p>
<p>This is starting to sound like a rant against the <a href="http://www.riaa.com/">RIAA</a>.</p>
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		<title>More pressing issues than diapers, spit-up, smiles, coos, and sleep&#8230;</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 15 May 2007 20:26:15 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Kathleen</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[This interview with the World Vision president helps solidify in my mind why it&#8217;s such a fantastic organization to use when supporting efforts against world health crises. I love their person-to-person style, such as individual kid sponsorships. You can even buy a goat to give away! And, by the way, have you signed the ONE [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This<a href="http://blog.guykawasaki.com/2007/05/ten_or_so_quest.html"> interview</a> with the World Vision president helps solidify in my mind why it&#8217;s such a fantastic organization to use when supporting efforts against world health crises.  I love their person-to-person style, such as individual kid sponsorships.  You can even buy a goat to give away!</p>
<p>And, by the way, have you signed the <a href="http://one.org/">ONE</a>  Campaign declaration yet?   It&#8217;s a simple way to get involved in the fight against poverty and AIDS, and it definitely makes an impact (through the huge number of organizations and people backing it).  During this past year, many congressional decisions regarding funding were affected by ONE&#8217;s lobbying.  I&#8217;ve really enjoyed receiving emails from them and actually found myself emailing congressional reps via their simple set-up emails.  In a time when it&#8217;s easy to wonder whether our voices will ever be heard by our government, ONE has helped me see the possibility.</p>
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		<title>Joyent, TextDrive, and Strongspace Special Pricing Ends January 15</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 25 Dec 2006 20:46:58 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Harry Love</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[If you&#8217;re a business owner and you&#8217;ve been looking for web hosting, online storage, and web-based communication and office productivity software, now&#8217;s the time to swing down to TextDrive and choose either the Mixed Grill or 3-Martini Lunch plan. These one-time payment, lifetime-guaranteed plans are going bye-bye on January 15, 2007. $499 and $1,399, respectively, [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>If you&#8217;re a business owner and you&#8217;ve been looking for web hosting, online storage, and web-based communication and office productivity software, now&#8217;s the time to swing down to TextDrive and choose either the Mixed Grill or 3-Martini Lunch plan. These one-time payment, lifetime-guaranteed plans are going bye-bye on January 15, 2007.</p>
<p>$499 and $1,399, respectively, which may sound like a large chunk of change, but when you look at the features and consider that you&#8217;re getting everything for the rest of the life of the company, it makes great business sense.</p>
<p>Head over to <a href="http://www.shareasale.com/r.cfm?B=69506&amp;U=188748&amp;M=10198">TextDrive</a>* now and find the link to <a href="http://textdrive.com/specials">Specials</a> and select either <a href="http://textdrive.com/mixedgrill">The Mixed Grill</a> or <a href="http://textdrive.com/three-martini-lunch">Three Martini</a> plan.</p>
<p>* The first link to TextDrive is a referral link that will give me some hosting credit if you continue to sign up, should you feel so inclined. :)</p>
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		<title>10 Ways to Avoid Becoming a Pluto</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 25 Aug 2006 19:15:31 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[With the recent news that Pluto is out of the exclusive Club Planet, Kathleen and I decided to come up with ten ways to help you avoid becoming the Pluto in your group. 10. Beware the outskirts. In your group are you trying to be the fringe member, always wanting to do things your own [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>With the recent news that <a href="http://archives.seattletimes.nwsource.com/cgi-bin/texis.cgi/web/vortex/display?slug=webpluto24&#038;date=20060824&#038;query=pluto">Pluto is out of the exclusive Club Planet</a>, Kathleen and I decided to come up with ten ways to help you avoid becoming the Pluto in your group.</p>
<p>10. <strong>Beware the outskirts</strong>. In your group are you trying to be the fringe member, always wanting to do things your own way? Is your orbit a little farther out than the rest? You may be in danger.</p>
<p>9. <strong>Be big</strong>. At least, be bigger than someone else in your group. And it&#8217;s okay to start small, but don&#8217;t become complacent. Pluto&#8217;s seeming contentment with remaining the smallest of the planets ultimately led to its downfall.</p>
<p>8. <strong>Choose your allies carefully</strong>. Yes, Pluto had three moons pulling for it, but were they the right moons? Also notice that the number of moons makes no difference. It&#8217;s always about quality. Earth, for example, seems to be doing just fine with one. Of course, Earth chose to align itself with not just any moon, but <em>The</em> Moon.</p>
<p>7. <strong>Don&#8217;t give us the cold shoulder</strong>. Pluto shot itself in the foot twice when it chose to go that far out there. Not only was it on the fringe, it strayed a little too far from the Sun and bang! it iced over completely. You gotta crack that shell and come sit by the fire if you want some lovage, my friend. Pluto&#8217;s mean temperature is 37&deg; Kelvin. That&#8217;s ice, ice, baby. Word to your mother.</p>
<p>6. <strong>Pick a good name</strong>. Pluto, the god of the underworld. It doesn&#8217;t get much more depressing than that. Unless of course you also have a moon named Charon.<br />
&#8220;Hey, let&#8217;s all go out for drinks!&#8221;<br />
&#8220;Great! Okay, who&#8217;s calling the god of the underworld?&#8221;<br />
&#8220;Not it!&#8221;<br />
&#8220;Not it!&#8221;<br />
&#8220;Is he going to bring Charon, the ferryman of the dead, with him this time?&#8221;<br />
&#8220;Ooh, I didn&#8217;t think about that.&#8221;<br />
&#8220;Let&#8217;s just go and then we&#8217;ll send him a link to the photoset on Flickr.&#8221;<br />
&#8220;Agreed!&#8221;</p>
<p>5. <strong>Dress up a little sometimes</strong>. Apparently, bracelets are still <em>de rigeur</em> for a night out on the town with the planets; just ask Saturn. Jupiter has a spinning, red tattoo. Mars is all red and has a big tattoo of a face. Pluto could learn a big lesson here.</p>
<p>4. <strong>Atmosphere is important</strong>. Look at the Earth. It&#8217;s where all the party people are. Why? Atmosphere. If you don&#8217;t have a unique ambiance, why bother?</p>
<p>3. <strong>37 pieces of flair</strong>. You know you need <a href="http://www.google.com/search?q=15+pieces+of+flair">15 minimum</a>, but if it&#8217;s the only thing you&#8217;ve got going for you, go for broke. The Sun&#8217;s definitely got flair [sic]. Pluto refused to buy into this superficial social booster and was severed from the group.</p>
<p>2. <strong>Avoid Disney entanglements</strong>. We&#8217;re just speculating here, but knowing how tight the leash is on company trademarks, we think someone at <a href="http://corporate.disney.go.com/">Disney</a> probably infiltrated the <a href="http://www.iau.org/">IAU</a>. If that&#8217;s the case, Pluto never had a chance.</p>
<p>1. <strong>Embrace lifelong learning</strong>. Take a dance lesson. Learn a new language, or master your first one. Learn how to cook, how to take photos, how to paint, how to ride a horse, how to play a sport, how to choose wines, or how to build a web application using <a href="http://rubyonrails.com/">Ruby on Rails</a>.  <a href="http://www.43things.com/">See 43 Things for more ideas</a>. Get rid of your cable TV ($1,000 a year) and travel to a foreign country (or at least to the beach). Sell your TV on Craigslist and crack open a book (tip: books are free at the library). The point is, people enjoy meeting and talking to interesting people. People who are passionate about their subject are interesting, even exciting, even if the subject isn&#8217;t exciting to anyone else. As far as we know, Pluto only cared about Pluto. Not a smart move.</p>
<p>We hope this has been helpful to you. We certainly learned a lot from Pluto&#8217;s demise and think it&#8217;s worth further exploration. The planet with ears to hear, let him hear.</p>
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		<title>2006 Tour de France with Google Earth</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 22 May 2006 22:12:52 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Google Earth was released for Windows XP at the end of June last year. Playing around with the software, I created a few of the beginning stages of the 2005 Tour de France. The effort was quickly picked up by the Google Earth BBS community who completed the routes and improved upon my initial attempts. [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://earth.google.com/">Google Earth</a> was released for Windows XP at the end of June last year.  Playing around with the software, I created a few of the <a href="http://staff.washington.edu/hlove/2005/06/30/2005-tour-de-france-with-google-earth/">beginning stages of the 2005 Tour de France</a>. The effort was quickly picked up by the Google Earth BBS community who completed the routes and improved upon my initial attempts.</p>
<p>This year, with plenty of time to spare, the <a href="http://bbs.keyhole.com/ubb/showflat.php/Cat/0/Number/408274/an/0/page/0#408274">stages for the 2006 Tour de France have been completed</a> and it appears to be the work of Satan. Ha!</p>
<p>One noticeable difference between last year and this year is the addition of Google Earth for the Mac. That means&mdash;and I&#8217;m spitballing here&mdash;there&#8217;s potential for a lot more coverage of the virtual event due to the influence that Mac-using designer-developer-bloggers have on the blogosphere. I think this is a good thing. Money follows the news.</p>
<p>Here are some ways you can get involved in the Google Earth coverage of <a href="http://www.letour.fr/2006/TDF/presentation/us/index.html">the 2006 event</a> and help create a richer experience for everyone:</p>
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<li><a href="http://www.makezine.com/blog/archive/2005/07/how_to_gps_tag.html">Upload and geotag your event photos to Flickr</a> (you can view geotagged photos in Google Earth by grabbing the kmz file from the <a href="http://www.flickr.com/groups/geotagging/discuss/72057594082212061/">GeoTagging Flickr group</a>)</li>
<li>Also, be sure to tag your photos with &#8220;tdf2006&#8243;</li>
<li>Extend the Flickr photo proximity scripts by focusing on Tour de France photos (i.e., photos tagged &#8220;tdf2006&#8243;)</li>
<li>What about pulling down geotagged videos from <a href="http://youtube.com/">YouTube</a>, <a href="http://vimeo.com/">Vimeo</a>, and <a href="http://video.google.com/">Google Video</a>?</li>
<li>Create a networked link that gets the current position of the pack, the teams, and the major riders</li>
<li>Find a way to recreate the race using the above data so that historical replays can be preserved</li>
<li>Are you involved with the Tour de France or one of the teams? Provide Google Earth data feeds from the race (race positions, times, current location, speed, etc.)
<li>And finally, spread the word! Do you want to see the technology get better (or cheaper)? Talk about it. Money follows the news.</li>
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<p><strong>Update</strong>: I just found a <a href="http://typolis.net/sumaato/stories/4323/">super simple method for geotagging photos in Flickr</a> and it appears to work worldwide.</p>
<p>If you&#8217;re already working on stuff like this for this year&#8217;s TdF, please provide a link in the comments. And be sure to share your work with the <a href="http://bbs.keyhole.com/ubb/postlist.php?Cat=0&#038;Board=EarthSports&#038;page=5">Sports and Hobbies forum of the Google Earth BBS</a>. Cheers!</p>
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