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Happy New Year!

After a hiatus last year we are excited to bring the annual Loveoirs update back. 2010 has been the most eventful year of our lives. At the end of December last year we drove from Boulder to Seattle with Kathleen six months’ pregnant and Charlie buckled into his car seat for hours on end, and arrived on a snowy New Year’s Eve. We found our current rental shortly thereafter, Harry started a new job, and we unpacked our stuff all within that first month. In March we managed to sell our house in Colorado long distance via fax, prayer, and heavy drinking. In April Mr. Miles William Love joined our family. In early fall, Charlie started preschool and Harry left his job to start a new business.

1,300 mile road trip and move. Two jobs. One new child. One new business. One house sold. We’ve hosted family four times. 27 mental breakdowns. The only things missing were death and divorce. And we apologize to you for that. We really tried to pack as much stress into this year as possible.

We continue to struggle with sleep deprivation. Not only that but we continue to struggle with sleep deprivation.  (Miles sleeps best in the early evening, while we’re still awake.  Then from about 10pm until 6am he’s up every 2-3 hours.  This, in spite of many attempts at crying it out and learning how to fall asleep unaided.  It’s been incredibly challenging.)

But if you want to know the truth about our lives (using only adjectives), we are incredibly thankful, happy, satisfied, tired, petulant at times, glad, and wonderful. 2010 was a full year.

Favorite Books

Harry: Light Boxes. Everything else was non-fiction. Of those I can recommend The Inmates Are Running the Asylum for the techies in your family.

Kathleen:  Good to the Grain.  Every recipe I’ve tasted or made has been breathtakingly delicious.  Sadly, I think the only fiction book I read all year was The Help.  I highly recommend Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child for all people regularly interacting with children.  As Charlie’s behavior has grown more and more challenging (warning: parents of toddlers, 3 is a much harder age than 2!), this book has provided tremendous guidance in helping me refrain from discounting his feelings or desires.  I fall short often but do see overall growth in this area of my life as a mom.  I imagine that it will be a book I reference for reminders my entire life.

Charlie (interviewed and dictated by mom while he holds the pilot of his Tinkertoy airplane): “Um…uh…mmm…Clifford books.” Any other books?  “I’ve really enjoyed music books.” Alright, what kind of music books?  “Um…record player music books.” (We don’t have a record player.)  Any others?  “Well, I have a new friend and his name is Airplane Driver.  And I fly my airplane.  And it’s right over down there.  And the red seat is where I sit and drive it.  And the lever makes it turn and turn.  And the red one makes it go super fast.”

Miles:  Believe it or not, Miles chooses books and has done so for many months now!  Initially he did it with just eye gaze, but now he grabs the one he wants when provided with a few choices.  His go-to books include Good Night, Gorilla, Goodnight Moon, Brown Bear, Brown Bear, Blankie and all books with pictures of babies in them.

Favorite Music

Harry: This year it’s been a mix of Electronica/Chillwave and Alt/Country/Folk, whatever those mean. And a little bit o’ Pop/Dance. I fell in love with Pomplamoose for about 10 minutes in March when someone posted a link to their cover of Telephone. Really loved that and their version of Single Ladies, which was sung in our house as “All the Little Babies” after Miles was born. And of course, The Autumn Film, who played a live show at Sam and Angie’s house a few weeks ago! But here’s a mix of stuff. Apologies if you’ve heard these already. Just skip around. There are 19 songs: you’re bound to like something.

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Kathleen: Hands down, The Autumn Film.  Their music sinks to the depths of my soul.  I could use a little break from U2 and Huey Lewis, thanks to Charlie requesting them one hundred times a day.

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Charlie:  “Beautiful Day!”  Any others “Um, Huey Lewis.”  Others? “Um, the, um, the radio in the car.”

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Miles:  He definitely lights up when we sing Old MacDonald.

Favorite Movies

Harry: Food, Inc., Nerdcore Rising, Three Days of the Condor, Mr. Smith Goes to Washington, Scott Walker: 30 Century Man, More Than a Game, Julie & Julia, Lonesome Dove, It Might Get Loud. Also, I just want to remember this year as the one in which we started streaming Hollywood movies to our phones. When Netflix released their movie player app for iPhone over the summer, I sat with my mouth wide open for an hour watching Jaws. On a phone! In real time! And it looks and sounds great! I’m happy I get to live in this age and not, you know, when color TV was invented or something like that. Although I’m sure they sat with their mouths open, too.

The last movie I saw this year was Tron and I don’t recommend it. Very disappointing given the originality of the first one. Some of the music was okay, but I expected so much more. And it just hit me, the music reminds me of Jan Hammer’s score for the first season of Miami Vice, with a little more studio processing, but not as inventive material. So yeah, disappointed, but that’s probably why I like some of the music.

Kathleen:  I don’t think I went to any movies this year, but I do recall watching a a few on Netflix in bits and pieces.  I smiled the whole way through Babies.  The most haunting and memorable was Sicko.  We made the enormous mistake of watching it while researching our own health insurance prior to Harry resigning.  We were an inch short of moving to Europe.  And I almost cried when I saw that French moms get six weeks of in-home help with their babies.  The government-paid nanny will do laundry, meals, baby care, whatever!  And don’t even talk to me about Sweden.

Charlie: “Kipper and Caillou.”  Any others?  “No. I have here some important things for me to spend some time in my airplane.  So, I gotta go.  See you later.”

Miles: Groundhog Day.

Favorite Games

Harry: I like making up games with the boys. On my phone I’ve enjoyed Angry Birds and Osmos.

Kathleen:  I was totally obsessed with the Canlis menu scavenger hunt.  The best restaurant marketing tool ever.  I absolutely loved the game.  It took me back to the season of Harry & I dating and all the scavenger hunts he sent me on.  We almost found the menus a few times. Those times were hard to swallow ( <– pun ), but I’d really love to take part in something like that again.

Charlie: “Cariboo.”

Miles:  Bonking Mama with his head while in the Moby.  Coughing at Papa.  Making crazy noises at Charlie.

Big Challenges or Most Difficult Aspect of this Season of Life

Harry: Lack of sleep. Almost no exercise. Feeling like I have no time for myself and feeling guilty when I do take time. Kathleen and I try to help each other with these, but really, we’re just parents of small children and it’s part of [Elton John voice] the CIRCLE of Life! [end Elton John voice].

Kathleen:  Oh, sleep, how I miss thee.  If you read my August post, you’ll know how bad it got.  I’m doing much better, but there were really bad days for far too many weeks.  I also got in the awful habit of rewarding myself for exceptionally bad nights with treats and we live two blocks away from one of the nation’s best bakeries.  So, I never lost the extra weight I gained in pregnancy.  Plus, I almost always choose sleep over exercise if I’m given the choice.  Icing on the cake: I haven’t had much of a sense of smell or taste since May.  For a long time I could only taste super sweet and bitter.  Fruit, chocolate and coffee were all the more appealing.  It’s been a vicious cycle.  Here’s to better rest and health in 2011!

Charlie: Answering for Charlie, we would have to say: moving and having a baby brother.

Miles: Sleep. Getting mistaken for Mr. Stay Puft.  Getting five teeth at once.

Name Something You’re Particularly Proud Of

Harry: Kathleen and I celebrated 10 years of marriage in June. I think we took naps to mark the occasion. And I make a pretty good dad.

Kathleen:  Asking for and accepting help during our really hard months with Miles.  Learning to voice my needs instead of expecting others to anticipate them.  Surviving intense sleep deprivation and a 3 1/2 year old without hurting anyone.

Charlie: Charlie’s doing really great at preschool and he loves it. We don’t know if he’s proud of that, but we’re proud of him.

Miles: Miles has a great smile, a great laugh, and he likes to be silly. Despite driving us insane at night, we love him so.

Best Surprise

Harry: Miles’ personality. Charlie bonding with his brother.

Kathleen:  This year included an abundance of lovely surprises, so here’s the top ten that come to my poorly functioning mind in chronological order:

1. Being able to rent on Queen Anne, just blocks from Angie.
2. Savoring Chocolate Covered Chocolate at Canlis while listening to stories and letters of encouragement about mothering two young children from dear friends weeks prior to Miles’ arrival.
3. Arriving at the hospital to discover that I was much farther along in labor than I had anticipated and being able to complete it without intervention.
4. Receiving incredible gifts of time, food, play, presents for Charlie, meal delivery service for weeks, a (drooled over!) standing mixer and even a beautiful sculpture to celebrate and help us through Miles’ early months.
5. Charlie thriving in preschool.
6. Harry being able to pursue his own business again.
7. Charlie enjoying babysitters, even if we bribe him with mac n’ cheese from a box.
8. My brother David’s visit with us during the Seattle snow storm.
9. Connecting with old friends and making new friends in more meaningful, deeper ways.
10. Watching Charlie learn to ride a bike on Christmas morning.

Favorite Part of Being Back in Seattle

Harry: Friends! Water! The color green! Coffee! Macrina! The farmers markets! Getting to spend Thanksgiving on the beach in Oregon with friends.

Kathleen:  Knowing it’s home.

Favorite Foods and Most Frequented Recipes

Harry: Kathleen makes really great red lentil soup, enchiladas, pizza, and pancakes. Thankfully, not all in the same meal.

Also, It puts the Roly-Poly in the basket or else It gets the hose.

And we just discovered Le Reve Bakery and I’m pretty sure the Twice Baked Chocolate Croissants should be illegal. Also, thank God for red beans and rice and beignets from Where Ya At Matt?

Kathleen:  The Collins Family Farm stone fruit (purchased at our local farmer’s market) was consistently the best fruit I’ve ever had.  It was also one of the few healthy things I could really taste this summer, so it was an incredible treat.  I would pay $10 for one of their peaches in the middle of winter.  Anything from Good to the Grain has made me very happy this year.  Fran’s Chocolates, Le Reve and Bakery Nouveau twice baked croissants, Macrina chocolate orange coffee cake…oh my.  I’m telling you, friends, Seattle has amazing food.  And it’s not all sweet.  I also had a delicious happy hour meal at Emmer & Rye with my brother, along with many other mouth watering meals.

My most frequented recipes are mostly from inpraiseofleftovers and include quick pizza dough (upon which I usually throw sauteed spinach, onions, sundried tomatoes, cheese and maybe some kalamatas or roasted red peppers), roasted vegetables, fritatas, Asian noodle salad, birthday barley salad, and red lentil soup.

Charlie: “Mac and cheese.”

Miles: Bananas and pears make him say, “mmmmm, mmmm, mmmm, mmmm!”

Favorite Websites

Harry: TeuxDeux (my to-do list), Dribbble, and Command Capsule!

Kathleen: NYTimes, inpraiseofleftovers, orangette, 101cookbooks, epicurious, facebook, twitter and flickr.

Charlie: Starfall, Netflix (for Kipper and Caillou), and Curious George games on PBSKids.org.

Miles: The Economist.

Least Favorite Activity You Must Do Daily

Harry: Wake up.

Kathleen:  Ha!  I just read Harry’s answer.  So sad but true.  We are just ridiculously tired.

Charlie: “Being in a bad mood with you guys.”

Miles:  Sleep would be a good guess.  Or getting changed.

Favorite or Funniest Thing Charlie Says

Harry: “… bands and a minion stein.” (translated, “… bands with a million styles,” a lyric from “The Heart of Rock and Roll”; Charlie has his own language when it comes to rock music. My second favorite part of Charlie’s version of that song is when Huey shouts out “Detroit!” Charlie has replaced that with “Detract!”

Kathleen:  I love how time has been referenced this year.  We had months of, “When I was a little boy I used to… (fill in with something Harry and I do now).”  Quantity has also been fun: “I had to use so much toilet paper because I made hundreds of tinkle!”  There were lots of really funny comments about #2 during potty training, too.

Miles:  “Bleh!” (Charlie says this to try to make Miles laugh)

Favorite Toy

Harry: iPhone 4. I don’t care. (Search for it, but be warned.) Seriously, though, I love my iPhone.

Kathleen:  Miles’ chub.  I love to squeeze it.  And he’s definitely my favorite source of play these days.  Too much cuteness.

Charlie: “Windup things.” He also loves blocks, wooden trains, riding his bike, puzzles (he’s a master), and Miles.

Miles: Whatever you’re playing with looks good.

Plans for 2011

Harry: Fewer life changing events would be nice, unless they involve large deposits of cash. I am looking forward to releasing version 2 of Jetrecord and having just one person sign up for monthly payments. That will be a great day.

Kathleen:  I plan to get more than 3 consecutive hours of sleep whenever possible.  I really look forward to celebrating Charlie’s 4th birthday in February and Miles 1st in April.  I hope to return to some form of SLP-related work this year, but I’m not sure of exactly what I want to pursue.  I hope we get to visit Colorado and Florida this year.  We look forward to several visits to the Oregon coast, one for just our family and another for Thanksgiving.  Our day to day life will be lots of playing, cooking, cleaning, walking, diaper changing, teaching, disciplining, laughing, and deep-breathing.

That’s a wrap! See you next year!

See the fullscreen slideshow on Flickr!

Love,
Kathleen, Harry, Charlie and Miles

I am finding more and more that fostering an attitude of thankfulness requires a consistent, deliberate practice.  Without a conscious effort to remember all that is good, it is far too easy to get sucked into the abyss of sadness this world brings.  Even my own current simple challenges–wondering how and when our job/move situation will pan out, feeling pregnancy related pain, and listening to Charlie’s wails and demands when he’s not at his best–can feel life-sucking. Sometimes I almost can’t see my way out unless I talk to someone wise enough to listen just as I need or who happens to be having a worse time.  This is not how I want to foster thankfulness.  I want my heart to know, not just see, the beauty and good in life, regardless of whether my struggles are relatively easier or harder than those of people I interact with.   We are surrounded by such intense pain and suffering that there will always be someone having a harder time somewhere.  Yet, their heart may be in a better spot, more willing to accept life for its ups and downs and trust that life isn’t about the ease with which we get through it.  We are created for so much more than just getting by.

Thanksgiving lends itself to much beauty, not the least of which is that it encourages so many people to stop and think about what they’re thankful for before they stuff themselves silly.  I celebrate this part of Thanksgiving and love that it is a part of Harry and my tradition to share these thoughts.  Additionally, I like that it’s a call to return to or strengthen a practice of meditating regularly on our blessings.  Without giving thanks, I am sure to grow bitter, forgetful, and weary.

There is also plenty about Thanksgiving with which I don’t care to identify or celebrate.  I just read this article about the historical atrocities associated with this holiday and reminded of how deep the pain runs for many Native Americans when our nation recognizes only the happily-presented (elementary school version that many adults still believe) pilgrim part of the story.  Highlighting his years of being bonded by anger, the author’s last line is perfect:  “And we’ll give thanks that we live in a country where remembering the past need not shackle us to it.”  It seems a good balance to discuss the truth and then choose to celebrate the ways that love has triumphed over hate, thankfulness over ungratefulness.

I also find it difficult to swallow the costs associated with Thanksgiving–physically, financially, environmentally, and sadly, for many, spiritually and emotionally–that could be lessened by making a few changes.  (I feel this way about Christmas, too…particularly store bought obligatory gifts.)  I’m all in favor of a local, organic, sustainable Thanksgiving meal.  Not a feast, but a minimalist, stress-free meal that allows people to engage in relational activities and enjoy the day.  This does not have to be any more expensive than a conventional meal.  In fact, by not having a turkey (which wouldn’t bother me one bit), the costs are decreased significantly.  If turkey is a must, getting a heritage turkey seems worth the extra cost.  I’ve heard the flavor is significantly better (maybe I’d actually want turkey annually if I tried one of them) and they’re not packed with hormones.  In fact, they can actually reproduce on their own.  (Isn’t it horrifying that conventional turkeys can’t reproduce!?)  You could cut costs elsewhere by having fewer sides, no alcohol, etc…  Or, don’t eat meat for a few weeks prior and after.  This would also help off-set the environmental impact of the holiday.  We have a very long way to go in celebrating this way, but I believe it is a gift to the world to do so.  It is an acknowledgment that our choices impact the whole world and by choosing simplicity, we are respecting our global neighborhood.

So, I’m done with my truth sharing and moving on towards focusing on love.  We have so much to be thankful for that it’s almost embarrassing.  Yesterday I had a twenty week ultrasound for our littlest Love.  The baby is healthy and growing well, already 11 inches and over 300 grams.  (It also seems to be following in Charlie’s shoes for head size.  Great…can’t wait for labor again.)  The appointment length was going to make Harry’s work day challenging and we both opted for him to stay at work.  So that we could still learn the baby’s gender at the same time, I arranged for a bakery near Harry’s office to prepare a half dozen chocolate coconut cupcakes for a boy and strawberry milkshake ones for a girl.  The ultrasound tech had me turn my head every time I could’ve been informed, praising me all the while for doing a good job not cheating.  She was pretty cute in how proud she seemed of me.  And she was happy to make the call even though she’d never been asked to do so before.   Harry met me at the bakery after the appointment and we eagerly opened up our box and tearfully celebrated our news with a pair of really delicious cupcakes and shots of espresso.  After a few minutes by ourselves, the delightful Tee and Cakes owner, Kim, generously brought us a onesie for the baby.  The staff there couldn’t have treated us better.  I think they liked being in on the secret.  And they probably liked my tears, too.

A few of many other things that keep me singing praises, in no particular order:

Sweet baby Caroline, who has triumphed through a very rough first year of life that included heart failure, feeding tubes, and open heart surgery.  She is as cute as a button and melts your heart with her smile.  She is recovering beautifully and beginning to really hit her stride.  Her parents,  my dear friend Leslie and her husband Mike, have been amazing.  They have inspired me countless times with their optimism, endurance, strength, advocacy, and profound love.

Our friends Lonnie and Juliet finally got to pick up their son from Ethiopia and now have him in their arms on a daily basis.  I got the pleasure of meeting Daniel in October and almost couldn’t believe that he’s cuter in person than he is in his pictures, because his pictures turn me into jello.  The kid is as adorable as they come.  Brightest eyes I’ve ever seen.  Man, I want to hold him right now!  It is such exquisite beauty to see friends who have longed for a family holding their baby in their arms.

My core group girls.  I have absolutely loved getting to know these college women by having them into our home regularly for study and fellowship.  Had I known I would be pregnant or that we might be moving, I probably wouldn’t have signed up to lead a group.  It has deeply enriched these past few months for me.  They have taught me so much with their passion, exuberance, energy, vulnerability, and eagerness to grow.  I will dearly miss meeting with them if we move.  You girls better take a road trip!

Harry’s job.  While it has created a new source of difficulties, it allowed us to stay in our house, rebuild our savings a bit, and take a deep sigh of relief after our year of limited income.  It also gave us the freedom to feel like we could start trying for another child.  Now, it seems, it might be leading us to another source of thankfulness…a return to Seattle.

While leaving Colorado will be heart-breaking and extremely difficult on many levels, we are thankful that jobs exist in Seattle for Harry’s line of work.  If we had to move somewhere else, I can’t imagine how upset I’d be.  But a return to Seattle feels like a return home.  We have never stopped missing our friends and church.  We also have discovered that we’re not suburbia folks…we like city life, even the nitty-gritty.  It is only in the joy of returning to people we dearly miss and love that we can face the pain of leaving others behind.

With that, I hope you all find a moment to reflect on what is good, beautiful, and loving in your life.  If you have read this entire post, you are certainly a good friend to me!  Happy Thanksgiving!!!

In addition to reading his own memorized version of Big Red Barn tonight, Charlie requested that the following be healed tonight during our bedtime prayer:

• Papa, Mama
• Pawpaw, Mimi
• Grandmaw, Grandpaw
• Grammy Ellen, Grandpaw Jud
• Uncle Steve
• kitty cat
• monkey
• dinosaur
• light
• bed
• Uncle Steve’s bed
• Mama and Papa’s bed
• Elvis (his sock monkey)
• choo choo
• a few other things I didn’t understand

Given that the incantation probably would have gone on into the night had there been more time, consider yourself prayed for and healed.

The questions we answered last year still feel relevant this year so we’re going to answer them again.

What are you happiest about?

Kathleen: Having a baby.
Harry: Having a baby.

What’s the baby’s name?

Kathleen: Justin Uhlotta
Harry: Asurp Rize

No, really

…did some of you fall for that last year? We know you did. Here’s the birth announcement we posted last year.

Share a memorable laugh you had

Harry: These are two of my favorites: Charlie and the Crazy Cow; The Hand

Kathleen: I like Harry’s choices, as well as a night not so long ago when Harry talked while sucking in air and I communicated only through gesturing. Harry’s inhalation comments made me laugh so hard that I was crying.

If you could walk through any door, what would you like it to open to?

Kathleen: The honest answer is the inside of our friends’ homes in Seattle.

Harry: The honest answer is the inside of one of these.

Who is your favorite neighborhood cat?

Kathleen: Do coyotes count?

Harry: Yeah, I think the coyotes eat the cats around here because I’ve never seen one.

Will you be happy to say goodbye to anything from 2007?

Kathleen: Moving.

Harry: If I’m honest, my job at UW. I enjoyed the people, of course, but the job dynamics didn’t fit my personality. I was there 6 years, probably 4 too many.

Who has inspired you?

Kathleen: Harry. Charlie. Angie. Nickie.

Harry: Kathleen is my hero. I’m inspired by her endless thoughtfulness for Charlie, me, her family, and her friends. She has more care and concern for people than anyone I know.

When do you feel like time flies?

Kathleen: When I reflect on how much Charlie has changed since birth!!! Otherwise, it’s felt quite slow this year.

Harry: Working on Jetrecord. There just aren’t enough hours in the day.

Any favorite movies or videos?

Kathleen: All our videos of Charlie on Vimeo. Bourne Ultimatum. Ocean’s 13.

Harry: Dramatic Prairie Dog, I Trusted You, Beverly Hills Cop, Bridge to Terabithia (watched without sound on the plane to Louisiana), Superbad, and surprisingly, Blades of Glory. Yet again we’re way behind the times on movies. We became Netflix members this year so I hope we’ll at least catch a few recent releases.

Any favorite music or books?

Kathleen: I’m still playing the same music from last year’s post! I finally read One Hundred Years of Solitude which was incredible, but probably not a good choice when I’m feeling a bit of solitude myself these days…

Harry: As for music I discovered The Acorn this year. I also bought Radiohead’s new album In Rainbows and I love it. Sadly, no books to mention. And really, my music appreciation has been restricted to passive listening at work so I’m not sure that counts, either. Maybe four years from now when someone buys the business for $20M I’ll take some time to read fiction again.

Favorite web sites?

Kathleen: Same answer as last year: “I’m not much of a web surfer, so my vote is for my email account. Harry always shows me funny sites, so I get to see the good stuff without searching for it.” Although—and I’m hesitant to admit—I joined Facebook after getting roped in by a friend (you know who you are!).

Harry: Tip: for the last few years I’ve found all my interesting sites from two places: Delicious/popular and kottke.org. Of course there’s more going on out there but that’s where I start. I joined Twitter in March. Interesting communication medium.

Other than the baby, what are you looking forward to this year?

Kathleen: For the first time in my life, I have almost no idea what this year will bring…apart from spending most of my time with Charlie. I hope to get back to work (very) part-time if we can figure out good care for Charlie and I hope to visit Seattle. I am looking forward to starting the seeds of new friendships and fellowship, growing relationships in Colorado, and the treasured conversations with friends of old.

Harry: The day after Christmas this year I realized that I have everything in life that I’d ever hoped for. That said, I’m looking forward to opening the doors on Jetrecord for the second year in a row.

The End.

As always, we update Loveoirs from time to time with our thoughts so you can keep up with what we’re doing. Our photos (all 2,700 of them) are still on Flickr and we’ve put together a set of 2007 highlights to spare all of you who aren’t his grandparents from looking through our hundreds of pictures of Charlie. Our videos are on Vimeo. Everything else will at least be mentioned here.

Cheers and Happy New Year!

Several friends likened the first 6-8 weeks of parenthood as boot camp and I see the parallels: physical pain during labor & recovery, undesired wake-up calls, frequent repetitive exercises (albeit bouncing and rocking versus climbing walls and doing push-ups), occasional demanding screams, random fluids ending up on your body, etc… However, boot campers undoubtedly don’t get delicious meals delivered to them, cards or gifts, frequent calls of encouragement and offers for help, and family visiting (thank you everybody!!!). We have been incredibly blessed with support, making our experience much easier than it could’ve been. Also, Charlie is an awesome baby (yes, I’m biased). He’s generally easy to console, a huge snuggle bug, and so darn cute that I almost don’t mind when he’s wide awake at 3am…and again at 4:30…and again at 6…. The latest adorable acts include his smile and frequent “ah-oo” noise. The cooing noise appears to be initiated following ours on occasion, too! It might be his first conversation of sorts (I’m going to try to avoid being too SLP-ish in my analysis of his early speech development!).

Do boot campers experience anything like labor? I haven’t written about my labor yet, and might do so in more detail at a later date, but here’s the highlights for those who haven’t heard:

• Harry had strep and I had a cold (all my symptoms stopped during labor and returned after delivery)
• Contractions started on Februrary 4th at 2am and I delivered on the 5th at 6:20pm, making it a grand total of 40 hours (20-24 of which were “active”, of which waaaay too many were pushing).
• We had a doula, who is also a friend, present with us for the last 22 hours or labor! If an award exists, she should win it for her dedication and amazing coaching. I believe that without her the labor would have been much more difficult and I might’ve ended up with a cesarean.
• Thankfully we needed no serious medical intervention. Being able to walk and use different positions for contractions, and eat(initially)/drink also probably helped me endure. And the 3 Rs (relaxation, ritual, rhythm) work! (Again, thanks to our doula reminding me to use them and knowing when to change things up.) FYI- I highly recommend the Simkin books Pregnancy, Childbirth and the Newborn and The Birth Partner for labor prep.
• 3rd degree tear/four lacerations total- this is why I was essentially bedrest for the first two weeks and am still not supposed to lift anything heavier than Charlie. I am much better now and incredibly thankful to be sitting, walking, driving, etc…
• It was the most profound spiritual experience of my life. I have never felt God so present and comforting. He undoubtedly prepared Harry & I for this experience and made specific, tangible ways for us to endure the challenges, including: Harry’s fever breaking right as we needed to go to the hospital; friends sharing verses with me that I ended up clinging to during contractions; providing us with an amazing doula, especially since Harry was sick, labor took so long, and Harry & I would’ve had no clue about how to make contractions less painful and more productive. There are many other specific incidents, as well.

Since this post has taken me 3 days to write by sneaking in sentences while Charlie’s content in a bouncy chair, I must end it before he’s 6 months old and none of this is relevant anymore!